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If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please call the 24 hour free & confidential
HELPLINE
425-2222

National Domestic Violence Hotline Number:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

National Sexual Assault Hotline Number:
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Is It Abuse?

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most significant sign is fear of your partner. Other signs include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and creates feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below.

Your Thoughts and Feelings

Do you:  
feel afraid of your partner much of the time? yes no
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? yes no
feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner? yes no
believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? yes no
wonder if you’re the one who is crazy? yes no
feel emotionally numb or helpless? yes no

 

Your Partner's Belittling Behavior

Does your partner:  
humiliate, criticize, or yell at you? yes no
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see? yes no
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments? yes no
blame you for his own abusive behavior? yes no
see you as property or a sex object, rather than
as a person?		 yes no

 

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats

Does your partner:  
have a bad and unpredictable temper? yes no
hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? yes no
threaten to take your children away or harm them? yes no
threaten to commit suicide if you leave? yes no
force you to have sex? destroy your belongings? yes no

 

Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior

Does your partner:  
act excessively jealous and possessive? yes no
control where you go or what you do? yes no
keep you from seeing your friends or family? yes no
limit your access to money, the phone, or the car? yes no
constantly check up on you? yes no

adapted from www.helpguide.org

 


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