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Healthy Relationship Quiz

Think about your relationship and answer each of the following questions.
For each answer, the statement will change color.

Green indicates positive healthy behaviors and characteristics.
Yellow may be areas of concern.
Red are serious warning signs of a possibly abusive relationship.
Grey are neutral statements and don't say anything good or bad about your relationship.

Social Life

The person you are with  
Has good friends other than you. yes no
Gets extremely jealous or possessive. yes no
Says you are too involved in different activities. yes no
Tries to keep you from seeing or talking to your family and friends. yes no
Falsely accuses you of flirting or cheating. yes no
Likes to spend time with your friends and family. yes no
Yells, screams or humiliates you in front of others. yes no
Is well liked by your friends. yes no
Understands that you have your own life too. yes no
Tries to control what you do and who you see. yes no

Communication
The person you are with  
Puts you down, calls you names or criticizes you. yes no
Can talk about his or her feelings without getting angry. yes no
Texts you or calls you all the time. yes no
Likes to listen when you have something on your mind. yes no
Constantly checks up on you or makes you check in. yes no
Asks for your opinion and advice. yes no
Often lies to you. yes no
Blames you for problems in the relationship. yes no
Makes you laugh, likes to play and have fun. yes no

Emotions
The person you are with  
Makes you feel like no one else would want you. yes no
Encourages you to try new things. yes no
Is fun and easy to be around. yes no
Breaks things or throws things to intimidate you. yes no
Treats you like an equal. yes no
Threatens to hurt him or herself because of you. yes no
Makes you feel nervous or like you're 'walking on eggshells'. yes no
Is very supportive of things that you do. yes no
Has big mood swings - gets angry and yells at you one minute, and the next minute is sweet and apologetic. yes no

Control and Violence
The person you are with  
Controls what you wear or how you look. yes no
Thinks you spend too much time trying to look nice. yes no
Threatens to hurt you, your friends or family. yes no
Speaks up when he or she sees someone being hurt or bullied. yes no
Threatens to destroy your things. yes no
Pressures or forces you into having sex or going farther than you want to. yes no
Confronts his or her friends when they make racist, sexist or homophobic comments. yes no
Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds you down, or hurts you in some way. yes no

adapted from Break The Cycle